One thing that I quickly learned in New York is that everyone is, or has tried, dating online. It’s totally acceptable here. Not that it isn’t accepted in the UK… oh, who am I kidding? When I lived in London online dating was for the geeks and freaks who were so socially inept that couldn’t meet people any other way. If anyone ever used online dating sites in the UK it was hidden, a dirty secret never to be discussed.
Not so in the apple. With the average worker spending so much time in the office they hardly find time to call their mother let alone meet potential partners, it is often necessary to turn to the internet. Yep, the time is money attitude certainly is one of the main reasons for the common usage.
However, there is another rationale; it is also testament to the extreme business-like attitude towards dating that many New Yorkers possess. If you aren’t perfect on paper, what’s the point in meeting? And the people that demand “no photo no reply,” well, speaks for itself.
“Everyone I know has tried online dating,” my (born and bred New York) chum Beth tells me, “I was at the beach with a group of couples last weekend and we had all met our other halves online.”
“It makes for rather short ‘how we met’ conversations,” she says when I ask about any downsides to such a situation.
I think the choice really depends on the person. One part of me feels like I have to be the one to fish through emails and look at profiles and go on a online dating that I choose because no one knows me better than I do. But another part of me would prefer an expert to match me up with someone and possibly eliminate those people I will not connect with. Maybe someday I will try both to see which works better.
ReplyDeleteI think it isn't as pralent in all of the states, though I’m meeting more and more southerners who admit to giving it a try.
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